THE FOLLOWING WAS WRITTEN BEFORE THE PHOTO SHOOT
My life as a mom is far from glamorous. The only time that I actually take for myself is between 45 minutes and 1 hour sometime in the morning to workout and take a shower and the thirty minutes (most days) to take a leisurely walk for stress relief. There are more days than not that I do not dry my hair or look in the mirror for the rest of the day. During the week, my days are spent homeschooling my children, helping my Nurturing Fitness clients, and feeding my kids or taking them to activities. On the weekend, I spend most of the day at my physical therapy job. I am not telling a “sob story”; I LOVE my life. The before mentioned “story” is to give background to why I am about to go so far out of my comfort zone.
As part of starting my business this year, I joined a mentorship/coaching (yes coaches need coaches too) program for the year to help guide me in the steps to make my business successful. Part of this mentorship is happening this weekend and is a photo shoot to use for advertising. To say that I have been apprehensive is an understatement. I love to have pictures taken with my kids, but by myself feels indulgent to me. But this shoot is not only pictures, it is spray tanning, hair, and make-up! In all honestly, I have tried to come up with excuses (several times this week) of why I could not do the shoot. I have also had dreams that I did the shoot in a snowsuit and ski mask! A lot of girls also going to the shoot have dieted, done water depletion, and carb loading to look their best for the shoot. With my schedule, these things were impossible for me to accomplish.
As I compose this, I feel a little (maybe a lot) silly that I have not embraced the process and enjoyed it. My mentor has ensured me that everything will be great. Part of my mentorship program is to the work on my mindset. With that, I have done a lot of analyzing of why I am scared of this experience and why it is so far out of my comfort zone. Here are my conclusions:
- I am comfortable with who I am and my body.
- I am NOT comfortable being the center of attention.
- Although I am comfortable with myself, I am NOT completely comfortable with others judging me (THIS IS HUGE AND SOMETHING I NEED TO DO MORE WORK ON).
Now back to the title of the article. I firmly believe that if you want to grow and succeed, you have to get out of your comfort zone. I have already done a lot of this to start up my business this year. But this photo shoot is a completely different way of facing my fears, doubts, and growing as a person.
THE FOLLOWING WAS WRITTEN POST PHOTO SHOOT
It is Sunday morning now and I have had time to reflect on my photo shoot and interactions from Saturday. First, let me say that I have had an awesome experience. My mentor/coach, the girls in my coaching groups, and the photographer are awesome. I was nervous during hair and makeup, but almost immediately relaxed during the first photo shoot session. Relief must have been written all over my face in between sessions (while having some hair changes made) because several of the girls smiled and said, “you are relaxed now aren’t you”. Can I say that all of my self-consciousness disappeared? Of course not! Because my youngest is 9 months old, my hair is still falling out/thinned from post pregnancy and I apologized several times to the hair/makeup artist for my hair being thin. But in generally, I felt amazingly comfortable.
SO, HERE ARE MY TAKE AWAYS/LESSONS LEARNED FROM MY EXPERIENCE:
- Your fears and apprehensions about something are usually much worse than the reality.
- The sense of pride and accomplishment you feel after completing something you were scared to do is very fulfilling and empowering.
- It is OK to not always feel comfortable and secure.
- As superficial as a photo shoot may seem on the surface, it also has a lot to do with how comfortable you are with yourself, realizing you are more than you think you are, and trusting/embracing new experiences.
So the next time you are presented with an opportunity outside your comfort zone, it is OK to feel apprehensive but JUMP IN ANYWAY! You never know what you may learn or how much fun you may have!